The Cole Porter song and Judy Garland lyrics came to mind the other day and the melody along with the words just would not stop repeating in my head. It was terribly annoying but then after several irritating reprises I realized the words were really spot-on. It’s so true…there’s nothing like having a good friend to make you feel cared about and appreciated.
I have special friends going back to high school. We have been together through dating years, marriage, children and now grand children. My high-school friends have known me for decades ( goodness this makes me sound like Methuselah). Even though one of them has moved out of the immediate area we are still very close. We are always in touch, well, as much as our busy lives allow us to be. The four of us have a strong bond; we are kindred spirits; our innate antennae feel our mutual joys, sorrows and achievements. Two of us are only- children; the other two have brothers. In my mind I f eel like they are my sisters without having to experience the pains of sibling rivalry.
Though my high school chums are front and center I have cultivated others through the years. There are those I met through marriage who continue to be close, dear and very important. Working for as long as I have, created other close relationships, and even now, after I’ve stepped away from my business, they are still very much part of my life. And then there are those that have come into my life by chance. By whatever means I’ve collected these friends, I am very happy to have them in my life. Each present different qualities and traits. Though some may have moved hundred of miles away all we have to do is pick up the phone and it seems like we aren’t separated by long distance.
I make an effort to keep in touch with friends I feel a mutual connection. With all the social networking available it would be easier to email, text or reach out through Facebook, but mostly I choose to pick up the phone and hear my friends’ voices. What’s even better, is to see those that live nearby face to face. Lunch, theater, book club, gym, any way I can. I try to get together with them.
What makes friendships so special is the give and take of advice; the respect for each others opinions; the unconditional help even before it’s asked for; the concern for each other’s welfare. I can’t imagine my life without my friends.
I feel Cole Porter and Judy Garland said it best. “It’s friendship, friendship just a perfect blendship. When other friendships have been forgot; ours will still be hot.”